Some of you may know this, some of you may not, but earlier this year I decided to embark on a journey with 15 other women in a year-long mastermind. The idea behind a mastermind is to bring together a group of like-minded individuals to support and encourage each other in our own personal development – in life, love and business.
When I signed up my original intention was to grow my business, to learn all the tricks and tips to reach more people online, and to basically, make more money. Yeah, there were other things I wanted to accomplish, but this was, at the time, my top priority. We are a group of strong, ambitious, and heart-centered women from all over the US and even Australia and Canada. We meet several times throughout the year in NYC, San Francisco and New Mexico with monthly coaching sessions and accountability.
Since we’ve started, it’s been a slow unraveling at my seams. My weak and unsteady foundation that was built upon fear, anxiety, “should’s”, expectations, and compulsion began to crumble at my feet. I would never have expected that the amount of personal shit I would have to dig my hands into would take precedence over my marketing or business plans.
I’ve learned several powerful realizations thus far from our coaching sessions that I wanted to share with you in the hopes that you can find a deeper meaning and connection in your life, to help you become the highest and strongest version of yourself:
Lesson 1. We all need a tribe.
One of the main tenets of the mastermind is built upon the idea of “sisterhood”, or of having a strong group of supporters. I can honestly say that I did not fully understand or embrace this concept until I started in the group. In the past I’ve prided myself on being able to do it all by myself and found a sort of strength from being a “lone wolf”.
However, since leaning into the support of having a sisterhood, or tribe, or community, or whatever you want to call it, I’ve learned that we can’t do it all alone.
This is something I want you to really, I mean really, think about for your own life. Do you have a strong support system in your life that you can lean on? Where is your tribe?
If you know a thing or two about our energetic system you know that our root chakra is our base, and this energy center is directly tied to our community or our tribe. In psychology, this is the equivalent of Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs – without a strong and supportive tribe to fall back on, it will be quite the challenge for us to reach a higher level of self-realization.
I invite you to make establishing a community or tribe one of your top priorities. If you don’t have one, find one, make one.
There’s a reason why we used to hunt in packs. Today, we’re not hunting for prey, but hunting for a deeper connection, a spiritual path that requires the help of others.
Lesson 2. Your inner child is alive and wants YOUR attention.
A lot of our adult issues start in childhood. We may dismiss this idea, but this is HUGE. And through the group I’ve done a lot of “parts work” which includes tapping into our inner child – the part of us that likes to play, and the part of us that is genuinely US.
Our true nature, our real personality is found in this inner child. Over time, through schooling and conditioning we are taught to basically ignore this part of ourself in order to “grow up”. I learned, through many sobbing coaching sessions and tearful bouts in the shower, that my disconnection to little sirena has been the missing link to overcoming many of my self-limiting and self-sabotaging behaviors – like, not feeling like I’m good enough.
If you’re reading this email (still) chances are you are a seeker, and you are on a journey to better yourself, to become your highest version, to become stronger both inside your body and out.
And I want to offer this to you: That the KEY to becoming YOUR highest and strongest version is found in this inner child.
So I invite you, to please do not ignore this playful voice inside you. He or she, just like your son or daughter, niece or nephew, just wants to be heard, wants to be hugged, and wants to play.
Please, give this part of you a voice, hug her, love her, and let her shine.
3. Only YOU know what’s right for you.
We are all just trying to make our own way through this world. At the end of the day, we’re all in this together. Some of us may look like we have it more together than others, but when we break it down and really strip away the pretty photos on Facebook, we all have our own shit, and we’re all just trying our best.
Once I started to really get more in touch the deepest parts of myself, I’ve been able to empathize with other people more intimately, and through this I’ve realized that a lot of my intentions in business and in life, were set on the expectations of other people. Meaning, “So and so is doing xyz, so I should be doing xyz, too”.
However, when I stripped all of the “should’s” out of my mind, I realized that the only person who will ever know what is right for me, is ME.
And the same holds true for YOU.
We may follow people online, or read books from authors we admire, but at the end of the day, YOU have all the answers you will ever need. The books, lectures, seminars, and workshops are there only to help you see your own answers.
Remember, like a seed, you were born with everything you ever needed right inside of you. And to reach your truest heights, we need the support of a tribe, the love of our inner child, and the wisdom that we already know what we need to know.
Like a birth, it’s been a painful and yet very liberating experience to unravel at the seams. I for one, feel an overwhelming sense of gratitude to not only the women in my group, but to the friggin’ Universe.